For a decade, I have belonged to a body of work that is constantly impacting our world in beautiful ways: Transformative Relationship Coaching. My brilliant teacher and mentor, Katherine Woodward Thomas, my admirable colleagues, and I are continuously engaged in serving clients and students in ways that bring forth more authentic love into the world. I am usually at a loss of words regarding how happy, grateful, and blessed I feel to belong to this tribe. Today is no exception. Recently, we were asked to update our bios for the Conscious Uncoupling Coaches Directories. For me, it is usually a daunting task to use the limited allotted word count to include credentials plus a clear message of what is possible. It is really hard to restrain myself when the words just want to emerge and flow. This time, I decided to begin the process by avoiding to restrain myself. Instead, I chose to begin by writing an open letter to …
Is It Really Time for a Separation or Divorce? The Answer Lies Within
Is this relationship really over? Is the separation inevitable? Is considering divorce just giving up? These are some of the toughest questions we face inside a very disappointing stage of a relationship. And ones we should be able to answer for ourselves. Things may have started going downhill in a very unexpected way. Or they are degenerating yet once again. You have no clue to what your next step should be. Shock. Denial. Numbness. You may be paralyzed. Confused. Hopeless. Will the decision of your next move be your choice, or will you wait for your partner or somebody else to make it for you? Amid the doubts, fear, and pain what you want most is clarity. And while clarity makes its way to you, it is a wild, anxious ride. The not knowing can seem unbearable. Sleepless nights of wondering. Of playing out the worst. In the face of feeling lost, confused and desperate, seeking wisdom in somebody else’s story …
Establishing Healthy Boundaries When Parting Ways
It is never too late to begin establishing healthy boundaries. Even when you are going through a breakup, separation or divorce. In a Conscious Uncoupling, there is great interest in the relationship that will be created after the coupling is complete In the best of cases, the next chapter can look like a cordial distance or a genuine friendship. It can also be an effective co-parenting or whatever the former couple is willing to explore. The success of a relationship transition will require establishing limits that will allow each person to move forward as desired Of course, this will also need for each to be willing to respect what the other person is requesting. Without this, the health of the emerging relationship could be at stake. As I share with my clients, if establishing healthy boundaries inside your relationship was never your forte, this might be your opportunity for growth. With this in mind, you may want to …